Accident can often be associated with something that needs to be addressed. It seems that every accident has a meaning and can be connected to something that is going on in our live. Apparently the unconscious intentions tend to work out conflicts in the form of accidents and so they are the motivator for any of our mishaps. Consequently then because we are responsible for ourselves, this means that we are both the cause and the effect of the accident. Psychoanalysis research found that accidents being the products of unconscious intentions and the saying "Freudian slips" are well known of the tongue that reveal subconscious feelings.
Turning anger into energy
Violence and anger are believed to be amongst other causes of accidents. There are different types of anger that come to mind, for example it can be seen as COVERT anger that express itself secretly or disguised in lots of ways , being critical, sarcastic, frustrated, dominating and even speechless can all be part of this emotion. Or OVERT, this is the type of anger that is openly done with intention, maybe ways of seeking revenge, loathing or bitterness.
A positive way of using anger was to transform or turning the anger into energy, such as converting the energy motivated a person in fight against inhumanity and cruelty by involving inspiring mission , such as involve in voluntary work or works that benefits us and others alike.
Passive Aggression
Aggression too is normally considered as having a hostile or destructive tendency yet it doesn’t always mean that it is hostile or violent, it can be outwardly expressed energy and as in anger, if that energy is suppressed it has to go somewhere and when it isn’t expressed on the outside it tends to turn that energy back internally which eventually shows itself in various expressions for example, in passive aggression.
The Passive aggression can be described as a distorted or misrepresented expression of natural vitality. It can be as subtle as having mood swings or snapping at people without cause. Passive aggression can be the root cause of behavioral and health problems in many cases of non-expressed energy reactions [even anger can be expressed healthily]. The anger when passive offers no opposition; it is submissive and abnormally un-reactive. We live in the ever popular ‘nice person’ syndrome and so aggression has to be hidden away having learned to suppress our natural and healthy aggressive selves by avoiding general disapproval , we cover up our aggressive destructive urges by living a life beyond into an explosion waiting to go off. Human beings are not violent or destructive; it is only the suppression of their true expressive nature that makes them that way.
Anger builds anger
Anger needs to be released as a sound [voice expression]- this sound that has been depressed and hidden away at some point can be reactivated at any time by some minor upset or disagreement yet big enough to trigger an explosive blow up that was the result of some other hidden unsettled problem hidden deep down for some time. This happens on every other future occasion when anger isn’t expressed because anger builds anger and will continue many times to do so until as I said earlier, there is an explosion. Yet the one triggered off the sudden outburst of anger had helped it to grow bigger and bigger until it had come up to the surface needing only a very little excuse for it to be released. Sometimes it can be unbelievable that some small remark or action could evolve into something much bigger but this had finally been the creation of all that anger stored up inside for some time just waiting to get out.
Releasing anger
Letting anger out may feel risky but in doing so it can be a real experience of getting rid of a burden and finding new energy, because we can’t crush or squash the energy that sometimes scares us without equally suppressing the experiences of aliveness that is also part of who we are.
Thinking that doing so something to take the mind off any anger doesn’t work , it will still remain hidden and passive . it needs to be released by sound, this doesn’t mean getting someone to talk to, they may listen sympathetically and may feel better for it but that won’t clear our problem, it is still there and all we will have done is to have “dumped” the idea of our problems onto someone else.
In getting the feeling to released as a sound from deep within can be done by turning the radio volume up loud so that no one can hear you shouting as loud as possible, this will help to bring the anger to the surface- that is, if you shout loud enough with feelings!!
Another way to release hidden feelings/anger is to face a solid wall and try to push it over-really hard- give it all your strength , you may find that you get angry and make the sounds of being angry, or you may burst into tears. Whenever comes up has been hidden there for a long time. Then whenever upset feelings you have in the future don’t push them down by doing nothing about them, breath deeply and experience your current feelings as fully as possible, stay with them until they are gone. Remind yourself that it was just a passing phase.
Wanting attention
It appears that every mind game we play exposes itself on the outside as though making an unconscious statement. Tripping up, falling over, dropping things [especially if what has been dropped makes a loud noise] can be that of wanting attention.
Children too sometimes use a method of getting attention in many ways. Apart from crying in real pain there are some who can be a little covert when playing the game of wanting someone’s attention? For example, when a child is in a room playing with his or her toys. Mum sneaks into the room and sees that they are playing nicely and quietly sneaks out again.
The child notices this and doesn’t like it- they are not getting any attention and this makes them angry , they start to shot and cry as well as throwing the toys around the room to make as much noise as possible .Then Mum hurries back into the room and scolds the child for being naughty and taking it out on their toys. That’s alright with the child though because now they have got what they wanted- Mum might be angry with them but at least they have got her attention.
May be the answer would be to validate children when they are good instead of in some cases only when they are being shouted at for doing something wrong.
See also: Emotional Problems, Anxiety, Good stress vs Bad stress, Express Yourself, Do What You Love, Increase Your Happiness-Your Choice.
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