Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection. Affection is defined as "disposition or state of mind or body."It has given rise to a number of branches of meaning concerning: emotion (popularly: love, devotion etc); state of being (philosophy); and state of mind (psychology).
Affect (psychology): Numerous behaviors are used by people to express affection. Some theories suggest that affectionate behavior evolved from parental nurturing behavior due to its associations with hormonal rewards with research verifying that expressions of affection, although commonly evaluated positively, can be considered negative if they pose implied threats to one's well being. Furthermore, affectionate behavior in positively valenced relationships may be associated with numerous health benefits. Other, more loving type gestures of affectionate behavior include obvious signs of liking a person. Many cases of a boy liking a girl or a girl liking a boy is called a crush.
Why Love matters? Love is essential to brain development in the early years of life, particularly to the development of our social and emotional brain systems, and presents the startling discoveries that provide the answers to how our emotional lives work.
At the earliest relationship shapes the baby's nervous system, with lasting consequences, and how our adult life is influenced by infancy despite our inability to remember babyhood and the development of the brain can affect future emotional well being, and goes on to look at specific early 'pathways' that can affect the way we respond to stress and lead to conditions such as anorexia, addiction, and anti-social behaviour.
An emotion is a term for a mental and physiological state associated with a wide variety of feelings, thoughts, and behavior. Some theories of interpersonal relationships also have a role for shared feelings or understanding of another person's feelings.
Perception of the physical world does not necessarily result in a universal reaction among receivers, but varies depending on one's tendency to handle the situation, how the situation relates to the receiver's past experiences, and any number of other factors. Feelings are also known as a state of consciousness, such as that resulting from emotions, sentiments or desires.
Emotions are subjective experiences, or experienced from a individual point of view. Emotion is often associated with mood, temperament, personality, and disposition. For example: confused, excited, guilty, anxious, angry, sad, confident, embarrassed, happy, disgusted, frightened, cautious, smug, lonely, lovestruck, joy, jealous, surprised, shy, apathetic, powerful, unfair, pleasure, and euphoric.
At the same time, this interpretation is a misunderstanding of the nature of the Platonic ideal of love which, from its origin, was that of a chaste, but deep, love transcending mortal life. In its original Platonic form, this love was meant to bring the two people closer to wisdom and the Platonic Form of Beauty, it is said to be a form of divine madness that is a gift from the God’s, and that its proper expression is rewarded by the gods in the afterlife; the method by which love takes one to the form of beauty and wisdom is detailed. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.
Love is Sharing :The most important ingredients of love. It is important to open ones heart and share – pain, joy, success and failure, it really does not matter, as long as the heart is clear. Love is being honest and knowing that the other person feels the same way too, it is sharing and losing ones inhibitions and knowing that the person on the other side will never be judgmental.
Love is Talking: It is about speaking, telling and sharing. After some time people restrict their conversations to ions. This is a sure indicator of things going down hill. Bring the spark back by starting a conversation.
Love is Spending Time Together: A few minutes spent together everyday keeps the boredom away and there is nothing like time invested in a relationship…believe me, it pays! Heavy work schedules take up much time and effort, so it is important to get things into perspective.
Love is Faithfulness :To love means to be true, to love unconditionally means to give with all your heart. Love is when you realize that he/she is the best thing that has happened to you and you want to cherish that person and the moments spent with him/her till death do you part.
Love is like a chemical reaction in the brain its chain of reactions and resulting in number of feelings such likeness, lust, desire, passion, attraction, falling and giving up and it comes to everyone in just different phases in an uncertain order.
It’s the dedication and commitment that makes love last forever. The dedication and commitment has to come in package with freedom. Freedom for the other half and commitment for self. When it happens on both the end it’s a heavenly union.
Love is Being Friends:Love is being friends with each other. Enjoying simple pleasures in life like respect the love one interest, apart from a host of other things that "Friends" normally do!
Love is Looking Together in the Same Direction:This may sound clichéd, but it is true…love is having the same goals and taking steps in that direction to make them come true. I would like to share with one of my favorite poems…
No longer a stranger,
you listen all day to these crazy love-words.
Like a bee you fill hundreds of homes with honey,
though yours is a long flight from here.
I am drunk and you are drunk,
who is going to take us home?
I told you a hundred times drink a cup or two less
Mowlana Jalaluddin Rumi
Love encompasses happiness, sadness, and everything else in the world. But each person experiences love in his own terms. Love is so unique and complex that no two people experience it in the same capacity. Thus, the word "love" is inadequate for conveying the nature of one's feelings towards a beloved. It merely serves as a common reference to describe a state of being, though it does not provide insight into the nature of this state.
Love is the designated title of the phenomenon of one person's strong emotional attachment to another person, and the second person's connection to the first. In other words, love is a mutual reciprocation of adoration. Love involves the well-being of the parties involved. A lover desires his beloved to be happy, and her happiness brings satisfaction and happiness to him. Hence love is characterized by a feeling of dependence--the lover relies, to a certain degree, on the beloved in order to function. This is not to say that there is no free will in a love relationship.
On Words of Love
The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction, An intense feeling of affection and care towards another person, a profound and caring attraction towards someone, a condition in which the happiness of another is essential to one's own happiness, the object of one’s romantic feelings; a darling or sweetheart or a term of friendly address, regardless of feelings .This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.
As an abstract concept, love usually refers to a deep, ineffable feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and Platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. Platonic love, is a deep and spiritual connection between two individuals. It is love where the sexual element does not enter.
A message from the fairy,
hidden in your heart;
with their letter comes serenity to the estranged heart.
The tree of wisdom comes to bloom with this breeze;
The inner pores of existence open to this tune.
When the spiritual cock crows, the dawn arrives;
When Mars beats his drum victory is ours.
The essence of the soul was fighting the barrel of the body;
When it hears the sound of the daft it matures and calms down.
A wondrous sweetness is sensed in the body;
It is the sugar that the flute and the flute-player bring to the listener.
(Divan, 1734:1-5)
Where can love take us? A very great distance. It can carry us to lands that we never thought to visit, lands both metaphorical and real. Love can redefine the nature of reality, can redefine how it is that we see ourselves. Love can make us do things that we never believed were possible, or right, or good. Love breeds obsession, and is bred from obsession. It breeds desire, and is bred from desire. In many ways It can be feel as expressing the different faces and experiences of love - the love that redeems and gives joy, and the love that drives people to despair.
Love flows from with, it flows out , you can never get enough of love. Love is not receivable, you give love and you get it. The more you give the more you get. The question how? Love has only one direction. So very true, you give love, give all that you have and the space to receive is created . You don’t take love it flows into you. How?? It flows in the other end. So well is it said over and over again and the more you give, the more you get.
WHISPERS OF LOVE
Lover whispers to my ear,
"Better to be a prey than a hunter.
Make yourself My fool.
Stop trying to be the sun and become a speck!
Dwell at My door and be homeless.
Don't pretend to be a candle, be a moth,
so you may taste the savor of Life
and know the power hidden in serving."
Mathnawi V. 411-414
Love is peace-Don’t tie love into a knot, a knot of relation. Don’t try and conquer love by possession or jealousy. Love and let the love be and let the love be free. Love with all the freedom, for the other.. Give more love and once you are all filled with love inside out you will be at peace.
- If you are looking for love, would you recognize it if you found it?
- Can you tell the difference between love and infatuation?
- Between love and attraction?
- Between love and sexual desire?
- Between love and friendship?
- Between sex and intimacy?
- Between a good relationship and one that is only pleasurable?
Real love is an energy that supports us in feeling good. When we feel genuine self-love and self-worth we experience ourselves as good enough and capable. There is a reverence and humility that accompanies this deep knowing that we are valuable just for being our unique self.
Our worth is not dependent on our doings or our belongings. When genuine self-love and self-worth is present and alive within us, we attract love and respect from others. We literally draw to us the energy of love from others. We offer the energy of love and receive the energy of love. We feel very whole and complete in this state of being.
The Meaning of Love offers and explains a definition of love in a way that is interesting, intense, clear, logical, and meaningful. All relationships --love, infatuation, friendship, dating, marriage, family, community, and professional-- involve three key elements:
- Emotions --how we feel about each other
- Ethics --how good or bad we are for each other
- Joys --how much we satisfy or dissatisfy each other
These determine the quality of our relationships; and The meaning of Love explains how they interrelate, and why attraction --the normally considered most important emotional element and conventional hallmark of love-- is not sufficient to signify a relationship as one of love, no matter how strong or how enduring that attraction may be.
Non-conscious affect and perception
In relation to perception, a type of non-conscious affect may be separate from the cognitive processing of environmental stimuli. Emotions are complex chains of events triggered by certain stimuli. There is no way to completely describe an emotion by knowing only some of its components. Verbal reports of feelings are often inaccurate because people may not know exactly what they feel, or they may feel several different emotions at the same time. There are also situations that arise in which individuals attempt to hide their feelings, and there are some who believe that public and private events seldom coincide exactly, and that words for feelings are generally more ambiguous than are words for objects or events.
Like wise-
'On what,' My darling cried,
.......................'Does so-and-so abide'?
The difference between birds and their wings,
and the wings of the aspirations of intelligent men,
is that birds fly on their wings towards a certain direction,
...................whereas intelligent men fly on the wings
of their aspirations away from all directions.
Every horse has its stable,
...................every beast its pen,
every bird its nest. ...........
.....................And God knows best.
From Discourses of Rumi
The idea of a "good" relationship is one in which it begins by your loving each other. Too many people pick apart their love by trying to categorize it or by constantly internally questioning am I "in love" or do I just love them? If you love someone, then you love them.....period.
The fancy whistles and lights are so much less than they are cracked up to be, and in truth, are probably nothing more than your hormones going a little wacky. And that won't last, this we know for sure. In fact, if those initial feelings did last, If it would eventually kill us all. Our bodies aren't equipped to handle so much adrenaline for very long. Or, at the very least we would completely burn out on the thought of being in love, as the burden of always be overwhelmed and out-of-control would be far too much for anyone to carry.
A good relationship is comprised of a few very simple ingredients. Those being as follows; if you love someone, if you respect them as a human being and how they try to live their lives, if when you think of "home" you think of them.....and as It can be said, when you need a soft place to fall, you know they'll try their best to be that for you. Then, you just might be onto something valuable. Love grows more full bodied (no pun intended) and deeply soulful with age. And that a love that can endure hardships of any kind and keep on running, even when you are not diligently steering the wheel, is a good love.
While we are here on this earth we need someone to help us through our difficult times, and so many loves fall apart during those very times. So when you find one that doesn't, you just might want to hang onto it.
Love is a state of mind. It is a commitment you make to always try to love that person, regardless of whether they are experiencing their high times or their low. It is as strong as steel, as reliable as the setting sun, and as deeply responsive as you choose to make it. It is special, a gift and a blessing.
Majnún was an example of all lovers, just as in grammar Zaid and 'Amr are quoted.
Feast on sweetmeats or on roast,
Drink the wine that you love most:
What's that savour on your lips?
Water that a dreamer sips!
When tomorrow you arise
And great thirst upon you lies,
Little use will be that deep
Draught you've taken whilst asleep.
'This world is as the dream of a sleeper.' This world and its delights is as thought a man has eaten a thing whilst asleep. So for him to desire worldly needs is as if he desired something whilst sleeping and was given it; in the end, when he is awake, he will not be profited by what he ate whilst asleep. So he will have asked for something whilst asleep, and have been given it. 'The present is proportionate to the request.'
Why we need Love: When we are born we are completely dependent on others for our survival both physically and emotionally. Most of us grew up with our physical needs being met adequately and emotional needs being met sporadically or not at all.
We come in to this world with the need to be validated that we are loveable. We are looking for someone, primarily our parents, to tell us that we are important, we are loved and cherished and that we count free of any conditions. Even though our spirit knows we are loveable, our cognitive physical self needs to hear that. We are looking to be validated all through our infancy, childhood and teen years as we move through different developmental stages.
If we were not given that message and our environment caused us to feel threatened or unsafe, we are still looking to have the message that we are loveable given to us as adults. We are stuck in patterns of co-dependency looking for love and validation outside of ourselves.
The poet says;
You are more precious than both heaven and earth:
What can I more?
You know not your own worth
Sell not yourself at little price,
Being so precious in God's eyes.
Why we make it so hard to experience it. When we were little and love was not as available or predictable we learned to live without it. We subconsciously created ways of thinking and behaving that helped us feel safer in what seemed like a random world.
Love isn't always as obviously grand and spectacular as so many would have you believe. But even in the longest of relationships, there are moments, brief as they may be, that you do "feel it" again. You look at your love one and the butterflies take hold. This is when you know, you're indeed onto something special.
A THIEF IN THE NIGHT
Suddenly (yet somehow unexpected)
.............................. he arrived the guest
..............the heart trembling..............
"Who's there?"and soul responding
"The Moon..."came into the house
...............................and we lunatics ran
into the street stared up looking for the moon.
Diwan-e Shams, v.V.ED. FURUZANFAR, P., 2172
You may have tried different things to get more love and support you in feeling more loveable. Some of those ways worked and you did get more attention. To this day you may subconsciously still be believing that you need these patterns in order to be loveable.
When they didn't work we adapted to limiting beliefs, held at a deep subconscious level, that tell us we are really not loveable. We often sabotage the experience we want the most because it is so unfamiliar and at that deep level we really believe we don't deserve it, that we are not worth it, or that the love is not real.Love is always worth the risk, and if you don't give love, the receiving is not nearly as fun. In the end, living a loving life is really the only thing that matters and being in love is very simple. Its people that make it complicated. For those of you who are currently in a relationship, appreciate the fact that you have someone who loves you and work each day to love them more, instead of looking for reasons to love them less.
This is love: to fly toward a secret sky,
to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment.
First, to let go of live.
In the end, to take a step without feet;
to regard this world as invisible,
and to disregard what appears to be the self.
Heart, I said, what a gift it has been
.......to enter this circle of lovers,
to see beyond seeing itself,
to reach and feel within the breast.
The Divani Shamsi Tabriz, XIII
In love we must sacrifice our arrogance, our envy, our despitefulness, our judgement, our selfish desires and our humanistic egos to the well being of our love’s , sacrificing ourselves in love for the sake of others is highest spiritual state to observed understanding and to nurture the loves itself.
So love does have a power in our life if we choose to allow it. In a world so beautiful, which is also so sad, perfect love transcends both beauty and sadness and recognizes them as the reflection of a transcendent and loving trought God and the love we perfect within ourselves allows the lovers to immerse their being in the fullness of God’s being .
It si sublime truth that love conquers all. They is no other reality.love is what we were born with, fear is what we learn. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life.
The lover’s whisper:
Thank you for always being there for me
…………… and for filling my life with happiness.
May Allah (swt) allow you to drink from the river of Al Kawthar
………………………… in the heaven with Sayeda Fatima Zahra (as).
And together we drink this pure wine
……………………..of love without transgression.
Loves is on the air and It will last forever…
From: The kingdom of His Holiness
For those of you who aren't in a relationship, it’s often found that once you stop needing love, once you quit frantically searching for it, it seems to find you. Can't say I know why this is true, only that it is. Hopefully you can treasures love often and largely. Don't harm your love by looking for its imperfections. To understand what a gift it is to feel such an intense emotion...appreciate it, nurture it and above all, share it.
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