Soulmate (or soul mate) is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship is considered one of the central human experiences, and has been sanctified by all major religions.
The First Stage of Love: Attraction
The Law of Attraction states, "To be attractive, you have to be authentic."
What makes a person attractive? The wisdom traditions tell us that attraction first and foremost comes from naturalness. Nothing is more beautiful than naturalness.
I believe a soul mate is not necessarily a love interest. A soulmate is someone that will mirror you, show you everything that is holding you back...a person who will bring you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you will ever meet. They will come into your life to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave.--an
Persian poet said:
Even after all this time
The sun never says to the earth "you owe me".
Look what happens with a Love like that!
- It lights the whole Sky. (Hafiz)
In the Persian culture, everything is encompassed by love and all is for love, starting from loving friends and family, husbands and wives, and eventually reaching the divine love that is the ultimate goal in life. Over seven centuries ago,
Sa'di wrote:
The children of Adam are limbs of each other
Having been created of one essence.
When the calamity of time afflicts one limb
The other limbs cannot remain at rest.
If you have no sympathy for the troubles of others
You are not worthy to be called by the name of "man".
Lovely Is the Modest Girl
Lovely is the modest girl,
She awaits me at the corner of the wall-
I love her, but do not see her;
I scratch my head, not knowing what to do.
Pretty is the modest girl,
She gave me a red reed;
The red reed is bright,
But I delight in the beauty of the girl.
From the pasture she brought me a tender blade,
Truly beautiful and rare.
No, it is not that you are beautiful.
You are the gift of a beautiful girl.
The She King, or the Book of Ancient Poetry
The Second Stage of Love: Infatuation
This law states that infatuation exists to open the door to a deeper, transcendent reality. Infatuation happens when the attraction between two people is so intense that it transports them beyond ordinary perception and the ordinary world becomes enchanted.
Some people believe that souls are literally made and/or fated to be the mates of each other, or to play certain other important roles in each other's lives.Generally, it is believed that all living beings comprise two aspects during their existence: The physical (being the body) and the non-physical (being the soul). The non-physical aspect, namely the soul, is one's soul-related activities like his/her feelings and emotions, thoughts, conscious and sub-conscious desires and objectives. While the body and its physical actions serve as a "reflection" of one's soul, whether it was good or evil, and thus "confirms" the extent of such intentions.
The Third Stage of Love: Communion
The Law of Communion says that communion is contact of soul with soul. Communion is the sharing of spirit. Therefore, communion is the basis of trust. In this stage, lovers move into territory of the unknown, taking from each other what they did not possess alone.
I don't think that a soul mate can be defined by gender. I see it as a connection that defies explanation. Where you can look at each other and no words need to be exchanged. I am currently in a relationship with my soul mate. There is no other feeling like it. The connection is physical, emotional, spiritual, and any other "all" that is possible. It just feels like "home". And I wouldn't want to be anywhere else.--Maud
The meaning of intimacy varies from relationship to relationship, and within a given relationship. Intimacy has more to do with rituals of connection. It is possible to compete over intimacy but that is likely to be self-defeating.
The Fourth Stage of Love: Intimacy
The law of Intimacy states that in true intimacy flesh merges with flesh, and spirit with spirit. In intimacy, Love energy and spiritual energy are recognized as one. Love energy is seen as the creative energy of the universe.
Intimacy is both the ability and the choice to be close, loving, and vulnerable. Intimacy requires identity development. You have to know yourself and your inner self in order to share your self with another. Knowing yourself makes it possible to stand for yourself in an intimate relationship without taking over the other or losing yourself to the other.From a centre of self knowledge and self differentiation intimate behaviour joins family, close friends as well as those with whom one is in love. It dwells in a reciprocity, which builds on self-disclosure and candour. Some describe intimacy with the homonymous "into me see". Intimacy can also be identified as knowing someone in depth, knowing many different aspects of a person or knowing how they would respond in different situations, because of the many experiences you've shared with them.
The Fifth Stage of Love: Surrender and Non-Attachment
The Law of Surrender says that losing yourself in another person is the best way to find your true self. Surrender is the result of relinquishing the ego’s last claims to separation. Surrender and non-attachment open the door to the miraculous, because miracles exist outside the realm of I, me, and mine.
My definition: Entering friendships/relationships for what one can put into them instead of what can be gained from them. NOT to find another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share completeness.--CWG
Some lose themselves in the first flush of love. 'Falling in love' is a little different from intimacy per se. Some are engulfed by their families in a way that is not close or intimate even though it is described that way by those who are consumed by their family. The first flush of love can be like that too, but slowly the individual will assert themselves and this test the willingness of both to be intimate.
I just want to tell you about my soul mate. I understand what this one song means when it says "I miss you, like the deserts miss the rains." We knew we had some connection even then. We said it was like electricity inside us when we were together. She said she had the same feeling. It always seemed to be like that.Ever had a puzzle of a picture of a most wonderful place in the world, and there was one piece missing? That puzzle isn't complete without it. When Renee died of cancer, her last words to me were "I'll come and find you, I'll come get you when you get to Heaven." Others may have more than one, but I know who and where my soul mate is.--donne
Spirituality and/or compatibility
A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join. However, not everyone who uses these terms intends them to carry such mystical connotations. Spirituality, in a narrow sense, concerns itself with matters of the spirit, a concept closely tied to religious belief and faith, a transcendent reality. Spiritual matters are thus those matters regarding humankind's ultimate nature and purpose, not only as material biological organisms, but as beings with a unique relationship to that which is perceived to be beyond both time and the material world. Spirituality also implies the mind-body dichotomy, which indicates a separation between the body and soul.As such, the spiritual is traditionally contrasted with the material, the temporal and the worldly.
A perceived sense of connection forms a central defining characteristic of spirituality — connection to a metaphysical reality greater than oneself, which may include an emotional experience of religious awe and reverence, or such states as satori or nirvana. Equally importantly, spirituality relates to matters of sanity and of psychological health. Spirituality is the personal, subjective dimension of religion, Some people believe that souls are literally made and/or fated to be the mates of each other, or to play certain other important roles in each lives.
Following Aristotle, the Muslim philosopher-physicians, Avicenna and Ibn al-Nafis, further elaborated on the understanding of the soul and developed their own theories on the soul. They both made a distinction between the soul and the spirit, and in particular, the Avicennian doctrine on the nature of the soul was influential among the Scholastics. Some of Avicenna's views on the soul included the idea that the immortality of the soul is a consequence of its nature, and not a purpose for it to fulfill.
In his theory of "The Ten Intellects", he viewed the human soul as the tenth and final intellect.While he was imprisoned, Avicenna wrote his famous "Floating Man" thought experiment to demonstrate human self-awareness and the substantiality of the soul. A thought experiment is a proposal for an experiment that would test a hypothesis or theory but cannot actually be performed due to practical limitations; instead its purpose is to explore the potential consequences of the principle in question.
This argument was later refined and simplified by René Descartes in epistemic terms when he stated: "I can abstract from the supposition of all external things, but not from the supposition of my own consciousness."
The Sixth Stage of Love: Passion
The Law of Passion says that higher reality is experienced in the merging of the masculine and the feminine in one’s own being. Passion for life and passion in love are the same thing. This is because life, in its essence, is love.
Self-awareness is the concept that one exists as an individual, separate from other people, with private thoughts. It may also include the understanding that other people are similarly self-aware. Self-consciousness is credited only with the development of identity. In an epistemological sense, self-consciousness is a personal understanding of the very core of one's own identity. It is during periods of self-consciousness that people come the closest to knowing themselves objectively. Jean Paul Sartre describes self-consciousness as being "non-positional", in that it is not from any location in particular.
Lifetime without Love is of no account
Love is the Water of Life
Drink it down with heart and soul!
Divan-i-Shams 11909
Avicenna generally supported Aristotle's idea of the soul originating from the heart, whereas Ibn al-Nafis on the other hand rejected this idea and instead argued that the soul "is related to the entirety and not to one or a few organs". He further criticized Aristotle's idea that every unique soul requires the existence of a unique source, in this case the heart. Ibn al-Nafis concluded that "the soul is related primarily neither to the spirit nor to any organ, but rather to the entire matter whose temperament is prepared to receive that soul" and he defined the soul as nothing other than "what a human indicates by saying " I".
The beauty of the heart is the lasting beauty:
……… its lips give to drink of the water of life.
Truly it is the water, that which pours,
and the one who drinks.
All three become one when your talisman is shattered.
That oneness you can't know by reasoning.
Mathnawi II, 716-718
It is this spiritual heart that contains the deeper intelligence and wisdom. It holds the Divine spark or spirit & is the place of gnosis and deep spiritual knowledge. In Islam, the goal is to develop a heart that is sincere, loving and compassionate, and to develop the heart's intelligence, which is deeper, and more grounded than the rational, abstract intelligence of the mind. Just as the physical heart supplies blood to the body, the spiritual heart nourishes the soul with wisdom and spiritual light, and it also purifies the gross personality traits. According to Islamic psychology emotions are from the self or nafs, not from the heart.
The Seventh Stage of Love: Ecstasy
The Law of Ecstasy says that ecstasy is our original state. This is where we come from, the Garden of Eden, the state of grace to which we shall one day return. Ecstasy is the final stage of intimacy with spirit that flows through love.
FROM MYSELF……………..
I am copper, through You,
friend, I am gold.…………….
From myself I'm a stone,
but through You I am a gem!
Each level represents the stages of evolution, and the process that it goes through in its growth. The soul is holistic, and extends to all aspects of the person, i.e. the body, the mind and the spirit. Each level of the soul has valuable gifts and strengths, as well as weaknesses. The goal is to develop the strengths and to achieve a balance between these levels, not forgoing the lower ones to focus only on the higher ones.
When you do things from your soul you feel a river moving in you, a joy.
When action come from another section, the feeling disappears. ~Jalal ad-Din Rumi
This verse in the Al-Quran:
He has let free the two bodies of flowing water,
…………meeting together.
Between them is a Barrier which they
………….do not transgress.
(ar-Rahman 55:19-55:20)
With this verse , (soulmate) can be express as such:
Our …….Friendship,
………….. is like the …..two seas.
As the soul mate is in love with passion but without desire or in another requisites
O SUN, fill our house once more with light!
Make happy all your friends and blind your foes!
Rise from behind the hill, transform the stones
To rubies and the sour grapes to wine!
O Sun, make our vineyard fresh again,
And fill the steppes with houris and green cloaks!
Physician of the lovers, heaven's lamp!
Rescus the lovers! Help the suffering!
Show but your face - the world is filled with light!
But if you cover it, it's the darkest night!
Within every love story hides the wooing of God, this is one area of life where the practical meets the mythical. For many people the experience of romantic love is their first experience of spirituality, although they may not know it.
Soulmate - Love without Lust.
THE PROPHET (SAW) SAID: IF A MAN LOVES HIS BROTHER, LET HIM TELL HIM THAT HE LOVES HIM" [Abu Dawud and al-Tirmidhi, who said it is a sahih hadith]
THE PROPHET (SAW) SAID: "NO TWO MEN LOVE ONE ANOTHER , BUT THE BETTER OF THEM IS THE ONE WHOSE LOVE FOR HIS BROTHER IS GREATER" [AL-BUKHARI IN AL-ADAB AL-MUFRAD]
1.4/24, Bab ma ja'a fi al-hubb fi-Allah) / 2.The She King, or the Book of Ancient Poetry/ 3.[Annemarie Schimmel, Mystical dimensions of Islam (1975), pg191]/ 4.Bediuzzaman Said Nursi /5. Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet, 1923/6. Bediuzzaman Said Nursi, Risale-i Nur Collection,7. Kamasutra/Deepak TheTwenty-First Flash/ 8. Jalal ad-Din Rumi/
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